To My Bug’s First Parents

Dear First Parents,

I just wanted to let you know that you are not forgotten. 

Our beautiful Bug loves you and misses you.  She thinks about you every day.  As we talked about the beautiful Autumn Moon this weekend, and the fact people in China were gazing on the same moon this weekend, Bug wanted to know if you were looking at the same moon.  She wanted to know if you were thinking about her.  She wants to know you, to see pictures of you, to look in your eyes and see someone who looks like her.

There’s a hole in Bug that only you can fill.  I don’t say this to make you feel guilty.  Not at all– I have no idea why you couldn’t parent Bug.  I will likely never know.  But I do realize that I can’t give Bug everything she needs– and part of what she needs is to know her biological beginnings.  Where she comes from in a primal sense.  

If you could see her, I know you’d be proud.  She’s a kind, smart girl, beautiful on the inside and out.  She’s proud of who she is and where she comes from.  She is a joy to be around.  She has a fantastic sense of humor, too.  We are always laughing!

I’ve promised Bug that we will take her to China one day for the Autumn Moon festival.  She wants very much to gaze on the Autumn Moon in the country of her birth, at the same time as her birth parents.  I would love it if you could join us.  If you can’t, I understand, but know we will be thinking of you as we look at that moon, and hoping one day to meet you.

Very sincerely yours,

Moogacat, Bug’s adoptive mommy

About mad momma moogacat

I am a 40-year old mother, wife, lawyer and pop culture fiend who is looking for some beauty and meaning in life. I write about parenting, adoption, mental health, work-life balance, and pop culture. Hope you enjoy!
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1 Response to To My Bug’s First Parents

  1. Delana says:

    So wonderful! Our daughter has a similar hole. One that cannot be filled with all the love I have. She used to regularly ask my help in filling a journal with letters to her birth mom. She hasn’t done that in awhile, but perhaps she is writing them privately now, which is good, too. Here’s something I wrote to express some of her deepest pain. The Shel Silverstein book “The Missing Piece” has been a wonderful help to her.

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